Charles Haynes
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10:31 am
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Cupido Magazine Is Seeking Erotic Fiction Submissions In English
[Reposted for David Steinberg]
CUPIDO MAGAZINE IS SEEKING EROTIC FICTION SUBMISSIONS IN ENGLISH
PLEASE POST AND DISTRIBUTE
Cupido magazine, the uniquely intelligent and well-respected erotic magazine published in Norway and Denmark, is now seeking submissions of erotic short stories written in English.
For those who haven't heard of Cupido, it is a magazine that truly has no parallel among publications in the United States. It is, at once, erotic, sexy, thoughtful, provocative, honest, responsible, artistic, and sexually progressive. I have beenCupido's U.S. photo representative for 15 years, and am now the U.S. contact for English language written submissions as well.
All themes and styles are welcome, but we are particularly looking for lesbian stories, stories involving fetishes other than BDSM themes, threesomes, and elderly people. Originality, literary quality, and general sex-positivity are all plusses. Previously published stories are welcome.
Payment is $250 per story, paid promptly upon publication -- typically two to six months after submission. This is for non-exclusive rights for publication inCupido's Norwegian and Danish print magazines, on the Cupido website (www.cupido.no), and possibly in Cupido World, a new English language edition of the magazine scheduled for release in 2010. All other rights are retained by the authors.
Send submissions as Word document attachments or as email text todavid@davidsteinberg.us, or contact me at 415-674-1618 for more information.
David Steinberg
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09:21 am
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The illusion of gender
From Richard Russell Harvard University, USA
In the Illusion of Sex, two faces are perceived as male and female. However, both faces ...
Click the photo to read the article
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10:35 pm
[Link] | My friend Deepa asked a question in her LJ, that I answered there, but I wanted to capture it here as well. Her question was:
There was a lesbian couple; and the "wife" in the partnership discussed the issues she was having with the baby's feeding. The other partner remained very quiet throughout, but her love for both partner and baby showed through clearly....she cuddled the baby as he cried, and then gave him back to the mother to feed him....apparently, they had tried artificial insemination to have a baby, but finally had the baby by in vitro fertilization.
I realized, then, that the need to procreate is NOT the exclusive impulse of heterosexual relationships. Given the very high cost in terms of effort, frustration at failed attempts, the extreme expense involved, this couple, at least, has had a very strong impulse to have a child. How, I wonder though, did they decide, in this case, who the mother would be? Did biological factors decide it, or did emotional orientation? The partner was definitely (sorry to use a politcially incorrect word, but it's very descriptive) "butch" enough to perhaps make this part of the decision an easy one.
If one was the "butch" partner in the relationship, how would one then relate to the child? Would one feel quite comfortable with the "male" side in the sexual relationship as well as the "female" side in the parental relationship? Or would they conflict with each other?
[This answer is primarily addressed to people who are not steeped in gender and identity issues, so I've simplified a few things. Oh, and please don't give Deepa a hard time about her questions, I'm just using them as a springboard.]
Questions around having children and rearing them are never simple, but they get even more complicated for gay and lesbian parents (yes, gay male couples have kids too :)
Which partner, if any, will bear the child is just one of the questions. Sometimes only one of the partners wants to bear children, in which case it's pretty easy. Sometimes they both do, and figuring out who's going to "go first" is a question. Sometimes it's complicated by one of the two not being able to bear children - which can be a real strain if the other partner isn't so enthusiastic about being pregnant.
I think it's important to realize that the gender presentation and roles may not correspond with who bears the child (at least not in the ways you'd expect.) First, not all lesbian relationships have a "more butch" and "more femme" dynamic. Some have two "butch" partners, some have two "femme" and often they reject the whole notion of binary gender as a false dichotomy. I'm reminded of Patrick Califia-Rice and Matt (friends of mine) and their son Blake. They most certainly do not represent any kind of traditional "male/female" roles.
Along with that, the whole notion of one-is-the-mother and one-is-the-father goes out the window. Sometimes it's the whole"Heather Has Two Mommies" thing, but not always. Sometimes it's "Blake has two daddies" and a lot of time it's just two parents. That said, there certainly are plenty of lesbian relationships where one person does identify as the "wife" and "mommy" and the other as "husband" and "daddy" but it's by no means universal (or even, in my experience, the most common).
Then you have the whole politically fraught question about how to conceive the child. Do you use an anonymous donor and artificial insemination? Do you solicit donations from selected friends, mix them up together and use the "turkey baster" method? Do you ask a trusted friend for a sample? Do you ask a trusted friend to do it the "traditional" way? I know of examples of all of these options and arguments pro and con for each of them. It comes down to the preferences of the individuals involved, there are no hard and fast rules. Then you get into fascinating questions about whether IVF for lesbian couples should be paid for by insurance; or in a place like Australia, by the state.
Then you've got all the complications of child rearing. How do you fill out forms that assume binary gender, and monogamous heterosexual marriages? Do you raise your child according to traditional heterosexual and binary gender roles and assumptions? If not, how do you prepare your child to live in a society that is overwhelmingly heterosexual that has rigid gender expectations?
Let me leave you with a final example, that is maybe only tangentially related to your questions. Assume for the moment that there is a community of Deaf (yes capitalized) people who view deafness as a positive attribute that enables them to participate in a rich culture that enhances their lives. Further assume that two of these people (lesbians as it happens) decide that they want a child. A Deaf child. They solicit a sperm donation from a Deaf friend of theirs for artificial insemination. Is what they are doing wrong? If instead the mother was married to the prospective father, and they decided to have a child, would that be wrong? As you probably suspected, this is not a theoretical question. The two lesbians are Sharon Duchesneau and Candy McCullough, and their child Gauvin was born in November 2001. A BBC article talks about them and their experiences, while a paper by Johann Frick at the University of Texas explores some of the ethical issues.
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11:09 am
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Perv Film Festival / Katrina del Mar
Went to the Perv Film festival yesterday (April 25, 2009) in Marrickville.First film was Buck Angel in "Buckback Mountain" and as much as I love Buck, and as good as the movie is, I just don't enjoy sitting around watching porn for 90 minutes. I skipped the second session. However the third session, with Katrina del Mar (here's her wikipedia entry), rocked. She is great! She's a New York filmmaker making very low budget "tough girl" or "girl gang" movies. She's got a kind of campy punk aesthetic that I love. The movies are rough, the scripts are rough, the cinematography is rough, and the girls are rough. They have an obvious relationship to the b-movie "girls in prison" genre, and most of them involve gangs of girls fighting and kissing. The first one she showed was called "Punchin' and Cussin'." The plot is loosely of a series of informal boxing matches on the roof of a NY building, set to some drumming. There are some shots of girls doing a pseudo prefight trash talking cussing intercut with scenes of fighting, rock drumming, and hot girl-girl kissing. It sounds like a disorganized pastiche, and it was - but it worked! She showed a bunch of other shorts, two longer features (Gang Girls 2000 and Surf Gang) as well as excerpts from her work in progress. I thought the Q&A had some good questions, some predictable ones Q: what's all this about violence and women
A: [shouted from the mostly lesbian audience] IT'S HOT! and one slightly annoying one Q: [long monologue critical of her work]
A: Is there a question?
Q: Why don't you take a scriptwriting class?
That I thought completely missed the point of her work. Her work is campy and punk, it's a reaction to glitzy polished "high production values" film making. It's visceral, fun, and alive. Anyway, great fun, silly, but also high energy and inspiring. Loved it. Love that she's out there doing this. (Plus she's got that great cute NYC punk dyke thing going on!) Going again today.
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10:57 pm
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2008 in beds
Bangalore, IN
Singapore, SG
Darwin, NT
Kakadu, NT
Sydney, NSW
Mountain View, CA
Cupertino, CA
Aptos, CA
Truckee, CA
San Francisco, CA
New York, NY
Cambridge, MA
Philadelphia, PA
Amsterdam, NL
Zurich, CH
Krakow, PL
Frankfurt, DE
Delhi, IN
Agra, IN
Bangalore, IN
Lake Tahoe, CA
Jindabyne, NSW,
Canberra, ACT
Melbourne, VIC
Christchurch, NZ
Lake Wannaka, NZ
Arrowtown, NZ
Moraki, NZ
Katoomba, NSW
Tokyo, JP
Hong Kong, HK
Bangkok, TH
Las Vegas, NV
Santa Monica, CA
London, GB
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12:56 pm
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Contributors to "Yes on 8"
My friend ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) joedecker posted a link to spreadsheet of donors to "Yes on 8"
The spreadsheet had some multiple donations from single donors, so I made a table of people or organizations that have donated $50,000 or more, the total amount they've donated, and what percentage of all donations to Yes on 8 came from that donor.
Major contributors "Yes on 8" | Name of Contributor | Amount | Percent | | Grand Total | $19,607,171.54 | 100.0% | | NATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR MARRIAGE, CALIFORNIA | $1,441,134.75 | 7.4% | | KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS HEADQUARTERS | $1,000,000.00 | 5.1% | | FIELDSTEAD AND CO. | $900,000.00 | 4.6% | | ELSA PRINCE | $650,000.00 | 3.3% | | AMERICAN FAMILY ASSOC., INC. | $500,000.00 | 2.6% | | JOHN TEMPLETON | $450,000.00 | 2.3% | | FOCUS ON THE FAMILY | $442,802.03 | 2.3% | | CONCERNED WOMEN FOR AMERICA | $409,000.00 | 2.1% | | ROBERT HURTT | $275,000.00 | 1.4% | | DOROTHY NIELSON | $150,000.00 | 0.8% | | PACIFIC SHORES MASONRY | $125,000.00 | 0.6% | | DONALD G. LAWS | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | ECCU | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | JOSEPH MORAN | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | KELVIN H. MOSS | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | MATTHEW S. WHEELWRIGHT | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | STEVE SAMUELIAN | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | WILLIAM BOLTHOUSE | $100,000.00 | 0.5% | | ARMOUR PROPERTIES CV, LLC | $75,000.00 | 0.4% | | RICHARD P. SPENCER | $60,000.00 | 0.3% | | JUDY GALORATH | $55,000.00 | 0.3% | | DALE BROWN | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | DON R. FLORA | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | LORETTA R. ALLRED | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | PETER OCHS | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | ROGER ORTON | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | S. LEE ROSS | $50,000.00 | 0.3% | | WILDE INVESTMENTS SC, LLC | $50,000.00 | 0.3% |
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05:09 pm
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1) Copy this list into your blog or journal, including these instructions.
2) Bold all the items you’ve eaten.
3) Cross out any items that you would never consider eating.
4) Optional extra: Post a comment at http://www.verygoodtaste.co.uk/uncategorised/the-omnivores-hundred/ linking to your results.
In addition, I've underlined it if I've cooked/made/harvested/owned it (as opposed to simply consuming it), and italicized it if I've photographed it...
1. Venison
2. Nettle tea
3. Huevos rancheros
4. Steak tartare
5. Crocodile
6. Black pudding
7. Cheese fondue
8. Carp
9. Borscht
10. Baba ghanoush
11. Calamari
12. Pho
13. PB&J sandwich
14. Aloo gobi
15. Hot dog from a street cart
16. Epoisses
17. Black truffle
18. Fruit wine made from something other than grapes
19. Steamed pork buns
20. Pistachio ice cream
21. Heirloom tomatoes
22. Fresh wild berries
23. Foie gras
24. Rice and beans
25. Brawn, or head cheese
26. Raw Scotch Bonnet pepper
27. Dulce de leche
28. Oysters
29. Baklava
30. Bagna cauda
31. Wasabi peas
32. Clam chowder in a sourdough bowl
33. Salted lassi
34. Sauerkraut
35. Root beer float
36. Cognac with a fat cigar
37. Clotted cream tea
38. Vodka jelly/Jell-O
39. Gumbo
40. Oxtail
41. Curried goat
42. Whole insects
43. Phaal
44. Goat’s milk
45. Malt whisky from a bottle worth £60/$120 or more
46. Fugu
47. Chicken tikka masala
48. Eel
49. Krispy Kreme original glazed doughnut
50. Sea urchin
51. Prickly pear
52. Umeboshi
53. Abalone
54. Paneer
55. McDonald’s Big Mac Meal
56. Spaetzle
57. Dirty gin martini
58. Beer above 8% ABV
59. Poutine
60. Carob chips
61. S’mores
62. Sweetbreads
63. Kaolin
64. Currywurst
65. Durian
66. Frogs’ legs
67. Beignets, churros, elephant ears or funnel cake
68. Haggis
69. Fried plantain
70. Chitterlings, or andouillette
71. Gazpacho
72. Caviar and blini
73. Louche absinthe
74. Gjetost, or brunost
75. Roadkill
76. Baijiu
77. Hostess Fruit Pie
78. Snail
79. Lapsang souchong
80. Bellini
81. Tom yum
82. Eggs Benedict
83. Pocky
84. Tasting menu at a three-Michelin-star restaurant.
85. Kobe beef
86. Hare
87. Goulash
88. Flowers
89. Horse
90. Criollo chocolate
91. Spam
92. Soft shell crab
93. Rose harissa
94. Catfish
95. Mole poblano
96. Bagel and lox
97. Lobster Thermidor
98. Polenta
99. Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee
100. Snake
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09:13 pm
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Sexual Style Test [meme]
What's your sexual style? Take the sexual style quiz for yourself!
The text is pretty accurate, but also pretty vague.
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11:30 am
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Silence = Death?
At the risk of hasty over generalization, Bangalore, and apparently India in general seems very sex negative - and it's starting to get to me. Expressions of physical affection (with some susprizing exceptions) are nearly nonexistent, and public displays of affection are strongly discouraged. I want to be culturally sensitive, but I also have some fundamental beliefs about the need for positive attitudes about sex.
What to do?
Recently I spoke up in a Bangalore Metroblogs posting about prohibitions on hugging. Most of the replies were thoughtful, though many of them disagreed with me. However there was one post that was particularly rabid and intolerant:
Mr.Charles,
We dont want to learn from you, We have our own way of handling the public or social issue and not required an outsider suggestions. Moreover i think you dont have any morality or right to critisize our policts as it is non of our business, U are here to earn your bread and butter and concentrate on that dont try to act smart. If you are so care about society just to and suggest your people in your country. We dont tolarate this. Jai Hind
Bad spelling and grammar aside, it's obvious that this is from one of the rabid hindu nationalist types that inhabit the current Indian political scene. In my opinion my response "took the high ground" but I was not particularly gentle. Since then, some of my well meaning friends have cautioned me against publically baiting them. "Your address is out there" they say. It is true that at least some of these people do not hesitate to use violence against people they disagree with. In fact the neighborhood I live in is near the site of riots that occurred earlier this year in conflicts between some of these people and people in the neighborhood. (I live fairly near a mosque, many of my neighbors are muslim.) My reply is that these people are jackbooted thugs, no different from Brownshirts, and that to be silent out of fear is to let them win. "All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent" and all that. Still, I think their concern has some basis in reality. One suggestion was to continue to speak out, but to do it more discreetly perhaps anonymously. I find that galling as well.
It has been many years since I faced violence for my political views or outspokenness. In college, I occasionally faced arrest, in the early days of the Gay Rights movement, being openly queer, marching, subjected you to jeers and taunts at least, and threats and violence on the street. I'm slightly surprised to find that my willingness to fight that hasn't gone away - but is that just some macho reaction? "You can't scare me!" "I won't back down from a fight!"
This will require some thought.
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03:32 pm
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NYC
Skin.
Tattoos on skin.
Professional looking asian woman, with the side of her head shaved.
Interracial couples - holding hands.
Cute plump dyke bartender - with the back or her head shaved.
Dogs on leashes - everywhere.
Cute androgynous male bartender - with a shaved head.
Skater kid boarding down the middle of the street - wearing an Amnesty International T-Shirt.
Frankly appraising looks from both sexes followed by a look in the eye and a smile or a nod.
People who look at me only because my hair is blue.
People who don't notice me.
Cute plump Jewish girls.
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02:29 pm
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Bangalore Posts
I'm blogging about moving to Bangalore at http://edgeplay.blogspot.com/ and those posts are open to everyone. However there are some things about moving to Bangalore that I want to post about, but more privately. In particular issues around sex, sexual politics, and sexual minorities. I'll be writing about them here, but locked. Everyone is welcome to read them, but you'll have to ask if you aren't already on my friends's list.
Tags: bangalore
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06:46 pm
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How to find me.
dangerpudding created a nice syndicated feed for my blogger blog. It's called ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/syndicated.gif) chaynes.
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